Seems like you are regrouping nicely. As a heads up...I do expect the boards to be relatively quiet this week. Great time for GAL'ing with old friends, new friends, and the family.
As for pushing them away and how far you can push them...I am sure you know a couple that cannot be in the same room. Even sadder than that...I have seen weddings were parents weren't invited because their relationship was so bad. So you can push them a long ways away. I like to think of the journey for us in this type of path
1)Learn to react to the anger nicely 2)improve communications about kids, etc to a nice peaceful tone 3)Become friends again 4)Earn trust again 5)spend time doing none pressure activities together again 6)let them decide when they want to work on relationship again
Through out this you continue to work on yourself...do things for yourself.
7)piecing
You still work on yourself, but you also get to deal with the wreckage.
So it is a marathon....babysteps, backslides, etc...You made the choice to run, but you can stop running whenever you want. The choice is yours to make. As we have said many times...you only control yourself and your actions.
