Yikes! Need help, please.

[Super Girl]

Okay, should I tell him I didn't mean entitled, or just let it go?

He is providing for us, he just doesn't want to pay more that what the child support calculator says he will have to pay once it's all said and done.

[Virtually_Handsome]

Just let it go.

Do you know what the CS calculator is going to say? Is it enough? It's not impossible to get more, if you can justify it. I may be an idiot, but I am going to be voluntarily paying more. I know it will benefit the kids, and it's only a few years... I may live to regret that, of course!

[Super Girl]

No, you're not an idiot. You're obviously a good father.

[Super Girl]

H emails me and asks if any of the kids changed their mind about spending the night. I replied...no. He emails again and asks if they ask about him. My response...no.

I'm starting to feel bad for the guy. Should I make the kids spend the night with him?

[TrentC]

I'm starting to feel bad for the guy. Should I make the kids spend the night with him?

Why make his job easier?

He has to make a relationship with his kids for himself. They may not be ready for that yet. Pushing them to spend time their dad won't work any better than pushing your H to work on the marriage.

[Super Girl]

I feel bad for him, but they're kids. They don't know what is best for them.

Although, he shouldn't be emailing me to ask, he should just drop over and ask them himself.

[TrentC]

I feel bad for him, but they're kids. They don't know what is best for them.

That's not true at all. How old are your kids again?

Although, he shouldn't be emailing me to ask, he should just drop over and ask them himself.

Exactly!

[K4D]

I agree with TrentC. He needs to make the effort to build that relationship with them.

What kind of parenting plan do you have with him? How often does he get to have them?

Kevin

[Super Girl]

Oldest is just shy of 12 and the youngest is 5.

He can have them whenever he wants to, but when he has me ask them, they always say no. My oldest doesn't speak to him and hasn't in almost a month.

He has seen them 4 times for a total of maybe 2 hours.

[TrentC]

Oldest is just shy of 12 and the youngest is 5.

He can have them whenever he wants to, but when he has me ask them, they always say no. My oldest doesn't speak to him and hasn't in almost a month.

He has seen them 4 times for a total of maybe 2 hours.

You might look into counseling for them. They may have issues they're not ready to talk about with you or your husband.