Read my thread if you want to, there is a lot of good advice in it.
Can try to make it easier for you, than the route I've taken.
1.MLC thinks ur a stalker, so don't go anywhere near her, don't call her, email her, you wait until she does you. Don't talk about her to anyone. They don't see it as you being nice. 2.You answer questions that she asks, kids, bills only 3.Don't tell her what she's doing is wrong and don't say I love you. 4.Respond with yes,no,can i get back with you. 5.They are very confused so you have to keep it simple. 6.Breathe means, patience, sit on your hands and don't do anything until someone from here points you in the right direction. 7.Forget being able to have a normal conversation they're not going to have that with us. 8.Protect your money. 9.Vent here, not at her. You have to be 90%Toyko and 10% Godzilla.