Making another shift another 180 and see what happens. I am going to try to go distant. I have been there for her pretty much the whole time being supportive. This time I am going to see what happens if I really start backing off and fast. So fast that it send her in the land of "where did he go?"

I guess now I am starting to detach so I can really mess around with the 180's and see what works.

Live and learn i guess. I will write as soon as I am able to pull that off to some degree. I will also write with what I did and how I did it. Let everyone know the results.

Here is hoping:)

--- as I am writing this I just get a text from her telling me she is sick, and she needed to go home early... This is were I normaly text back and say "is there anything I can do?"

Any suggestions?


Me 33
WOW 31
Married 12 years
4 YOD
1 YOD(adoption process)
Bomb & moved out 4/01/09
Divorced 12/17/09