First time poster feeling a bit lost

[MT21]

Heres my story,

Married 13 years last month, 2 girls 11+8.. A week last Saturday my wife went out with the children, 10 minutes later after dropping them with her sister, she drops the bomb..
This cant go on, I ask what? "I dont love you any more"

I am so shocked I turn hysterical..its a complete shock..We havent argued, she's been a bit snappy lately and tired but I put it down to work.(shes had a few promotions lately)

Sure we have had some pressures..Financial+ I nearly lost my job earlier this year through redundancy(But didnt..)My uncle passed away and 3 months later in September so did my father..
(I am still coming to terms with this)

I am so upset, Sure..I can understand shes not happy..but why not blow up and make more of a fuss? We could have talked..

I am trying to stay positive..Doing much more around the house..Stopped drinking..(have been drinking a bottle of wine most nights.. but no more).
The house has become a bit of mess, so I am frantically trying to decorate in a hope this will make her feel happier and want to stay..

Am I an idiot for loving my wife no matter how much shes hurt me..Or should I just accept and move on?

Is there another man? she says no..but how can you tell?

Thanks for listening