There is a concert here in a couple weeks by an artist that is one of my W's faves. Don't want to pursue, but do want opportunity for us to spend time together and re-bond. Is there any way I could or should open the possibility of going to the concert with her? I could just bring it up casually on Thanksgiving, like "W, are you going to see XXXXX in a couple weeks?" Then just play it by ear based on her response.
If she says "Yeah, I'm going with so and so" I just nod and say "Great! Should be an awesome time!"
If she says "I didn't know XXXXX was playing here!" I say "Oh, I thought for sure you'd know and would already have tickets."
If she says "No, I'd love to, but I can't afford it, plus I don't have anyone to go with anyway" I say "Yeah, too bad."
If she gives one of the last two responses and her demeanor is forward to me, I could make a joke and say "Would it be weird for two estranged spouses to go with each other?"
If there's no way to even broach this without appearing to be pursuing, I'll just drop it. I KNOW she'd love to go with me, but I somehow have to flip it so she feels like I'm doing HER a favor by going with her.
Maybe I should just make my own plans and reply "I'm going, got great seats! Can't wait! Gonna be awesome!" and let her wonder who I'm going with. We often went to concerts together and I had a knack for getting great seats, which she loved. I guarantee if I say that she'll be jealous, but the thing is, if I don't go with her, I'm not really interested in seeing XXXXX. Just not that into them.
