WAW on suicide watch, what now???

[MHL]

Your W certainly has some type of crises and it sounds as if the married w/children was getting a bit much for her. Losing a good deal of weight has a strong effect on some women. Is she dressing kind of sexy and trying to act younger? That is usually a sign of MLC. Wanting to go back and redo one's life.....like returning to the dating years....that's a big issue and why lots of A's happen. It's not an "excuse" but may explain some of it....if in deed she is in MLC. Some people don't believe in it.

Yes, she use to never where low cut shirts, now they are plunging. I hate it because I always wanted her to dress sexier. In addition, the house she is renting a room in she shares with the owner, 57 single lady and other roommate is 25 and beautiful. She started going out with the young roomie and I am sure that being out together knocks 10 years off my W's age. In addition before the distance got to the point where we weren't hardly talking, we went out to a local concert hall. She was like a teenager and she all starry eyed talking to a man and this was right in front of me, I couldn't believe it. We ended up dancing together for a couple of songs, it was the first time I had touched my W in 2 months but unknown to me she was already involved with OM. As I think back on the evening I could tell she was struggling with reliving some good times with me and enjoying herself. The next day in JC she made the "i'm your W, your my H, and we are still M" when I asked for no dating during the separation. I had high hopes after she made that statement.

I do not yet know the sitch with the suicide notes. Waiting to hear from the MIL on this. I had a short conversation with her today but she was with the SIL and W's aunt who don't approve of her contact with me. She knew more than she could say so I may not find anything out for a couple of days. The initial report is that my W told my SIL that she is "very sad" and depressed. I will take the advice of limiting the contact with MIL, she thinks I should move on a forget about her D, but still talks with me and I am realistic with her about the possibility of D. I don't tell her or anyone for that matter that I still want to save my M. All I get is that I am not letting go. I have detatched for the most part but I am not giving up and that is what friends and family don't understand. They see me as being a doormat. I think that is why I started posting on the DB site.

Have to go for now, just got word from MIL that W will be calling to talk to S9 in a little bit. I need to get home to be there for support after. Apparently she is still in the hospital. MIL could not talk or give more info as SIL and W's aunt were with her. I can tell MIL wants to say more but can't, I will have to wait.