I don't see anything wrong with letting him know you will be doing cake, etc for D's birthday and he is welcome to join in if he wants. Then leave it to him to decide.
GIMA,
At what point do you go from an honest invitation to pursuing? In some ways I see this invite as an opportunity for H to do some cake eating but on the other hand I would hate for him to miss this milestone. I am stuggling with where to draw the line.
As an example, the day after Thanksgiving, in the past we would go to a tree farm and pick out the family Christmas tree, decorate the tree, the whole nine yards. H has the kids on Thanksgiving day and dropping them off on the day after Thanksgiving. I still plan on keeping up with the tradition and taking them to get the Christmas tree. Would it be okay to extend the invitation to H in this sitch? Or is that one too many invites in the same week?
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning
