I agree. He is (finally) being honest. I think a lot of this stems from his inability to handle 'falling out of love' with me from time to time. His affairs both happened after we had a baby and I was seen as a mother not a lover. Sad thing is there are other ways to handle that, than to have an affair and transfer feelings to someone else.
The part that gets me though is, we have had some amazing times. And times when he could not keep his hands off of me. Lots, lots, lots of them. He had even told our last MC that sex was not a problem for us, it was the other issues...
So it hurts, obv. to hear him say he has no desire for me, is not remotely sexually atrracted to me, etc. Because he was. So I believe he could be again. But that is not something I want to have to coerce from a man.
He admitted that the reason he hadn't signed the forms this past 8 weeks was, he was 'hoping those feelings would come back'.
Well, hope and $3.80 will get me a grande eggnog latte at Starbucks...
I guess I am just profoundly disappointed that he would string me along (somewhat) these past few months (again) when in his heart he knew he couldn't be the husband I deserve. But at least now I know. And some cartoon (GI-Joe) used to say, "Knowing is half the battle."
