Can I save my marriage?

[Ready2Change]

Here's a wise piece of advice. When this happens (because it will) and he indicates that he wants to give the R another chance.. as much as it's going to feel wrong and your heart jumps and beats at 240 BPM... TURN HIM DOWN.

What!!!??!!! Did I hear you right? Are you INSANE??!!!!

Turn him down. Yes, you heard me right and NO I am not insane.

Don't make it a hard turn down like, "Over my dead body..." Nope, all you say at that point is... "I dunno. I'm not sure. Let me to think about it." Then shut up. If he wants you he will work for you. If he thinks he's about to lose you at that point, he'll work harder.

This is all in the future so be prepared for it.

THIS IS PHENOMENAL, SAGE ADVICE.

"Letting them back in too easy" is probably the #2 mistake around here, after "Pursuit."

Puppy

Gnosis is DEAD NUTS RIGHT!

It will be very important to listen, validate, empathize.
It will be very important to be NICE.
It will be important to not directly answer YES OR NO, rather POSTPONE your response! Post pone all your responses. "I will need time to think about that". That will give you time to come here, get advise and give him THE RIGHT RESPONSE.

If it feels uncomfortable, it is the right thing to do.

HUGS