Serenity,
Another thought: are there any decent adult male role models - in school or church, perhaps - that your son likes and who you might ask to give your boy some time and attention?
If H is all he has (leaving out the above words decent and adult), he needs a surrogate. Especially at his age.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac