Mar,

Here's what I think, although I'm certainly no expert. Most men have very fragile emotions, and are hurt easily. So, we put on armor to protect ourselves. When we take that armor off for another person, as he did with you, it's because of trust the you won't hurt him. Hurt him, and the armor is going to slam back into place. And stay there for a long time. He's going to have to trust you again, and I think yes, he probably is testing you to find out just how far he feels he can trust you to not hurt him again.

I know that sounds simplistic, but there it is. You will have to prove yourself to him over and over. That being said, I do think from your posts that you are making progress along those lines. Just don't push for too much too soon; he's setting the pace here and you will need to live with that pace. Like dday said, don't set expectations and don't get needy or pushy. Just let it happen. You're heading in the right direction; don't let yourself get diverted.


Ron

M: 47
W: 50
D: 19
S: 16
Grandson: 21 months (now officially our son)
Married: 10/2/89
Divorced: 7/31/09
XW moved back home 11/12
Re-married 5/25/10