I am doing good. Thank you for asking. Just trying to figure out what works for me and my sitch and what doesn't. I want to draw my W back into me.
When are you going to the zoo?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I think totally forgetting about her will be the best way to get her back. It's hard, I know...
Thanks. You are probably right.
I think you will enjoy the zoo. Do you have additional plans when you go? The zoo will probably take about an hour to a couple at most depending on what all you do there.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I was sick, so I told him he had to wait. He's planning on coming on Saturday. He wants me to take the kids out so he can get some more clothes, and a few furniture items for his apartment. Get this... he wants the kids to spend the night at his new place, and he wants me to drop them off. His car won't hold them all.
I agreed to taking them out for the day. I think it's best that they don't witness his moving out, but no way on the drop off.
The three older kids said no on the sleepover, and I'm not going to force them. The drop off is now a non-issue.
However...
Things are currently getting a little hairy with H. I asked him how much $ he planned to provide, and he said he'd give me what the child support calculator requires. I wrote back this...
I need a concrete figure. Something I can count on so I can know exactly where I stand. So I can know how much I need to make up. Obviously after you file and get the divorce, I'll only be entitled to whatever I am given. Right now, we are still married and community property and I am entitled to at least half of what we have.
Since you sent it there is really not much to say. In the future I might suggest you not use the word "entitled" because it usually doesn't sit well w/people.
Example... My H said he is "entitled" to happiness hence his affair. That did not sit well with me.
Once he responds with his plans for providing for you and the children go from there. I don't know much about community property states but talking to an atty cant hurt if you need immediate support and he is not providing it.
