Long Journey .......... advice please

[Gardener]

Cas,

Inlaw Dilemma
FIL rings tonight to ask me to go to MIL's 70th birthday. It's a family only thing and he says as far as they're concerned I will always be family. I love my in-laws but I don't want to make people uncomfortable.

If it's a family only thing and you'll "always be family", who exactly would you be making uncomfortable?

I told FIL that and he understood.

Sounds like he was just being polite. Could it be possible that he was disappointed that you said no when his invite words included, "It's a family only thing and he says as far as they're concerned I will always be family."?

My kids want me to go.

So do I

I think I know the answer but just want other people's thoughts.

So what's your answer that you think you know?

H asked me this morning if he could take the kids so obviously FIL hadn't told H he would invite me.

I say call FIL back and accept. He, MIL, kids, and you will be glad you did. Tell H, 'You don't have to take them, I'll take them."

Go. Go to loving, always-be-family MIL's 70th.

My take, kiddo.