They're both lying to you -- your wife and her BF. My take is that the OM's wife IS probably a little "psycho," but that she's telling the truth. I would also be willing to bet that your wife isn't the first for the guy.
It's as plain as night and day.
They usually will admit to one level LESS than what the truth is:
- "inappropriate friendship or feelings" = "full-blown Emotional Affair" (EA)
- "we've never been physical" = "full-blown Physical Affair" (PA), or sometimes it had BECOME physical, but they've temporarily cooled it, either voluntarily or due to outside pressure
I would assume the worst, as all of the evidence is certainly there, and then proceed accordingly. I also hope you are using protection when ML to your wife.
