7 months in but still a mess.

[LiveToLearn]

I agree. We were together for a couple hours and I agree 100% with this advice. You guys are right on. My marriage is important and I my family is important. I am letting her go. I know who I am and what I have to offer. She will probably test that for a while but I am really at that point. I can find another woman one that will love and me. I prefer my wife to be that person but really it is her loss.

It is hard but I know that, I know that is how it was through our entire marriage and when got together I was dating 6 or 7 other woman and so of course the principles are true.

Now the question is how do I do that the most effective way. I could write a letter saying "have a nice life!". Not in those exact words but as a general theme.

I could just start ignoring her and pull away. She likes the chase. She loves the chase. She wants the crazy feelings again. Of course since we were together for 12 years there is a challenge in the fact that I am not a "unknown". I guess that answers some of my own questions. I need to become unknown. Unpredictable and really let her do all the chasing.

It has taken me a little time to make the shift. But I feel like the time I spent with her this weekend reaffiremed this exact thing.

I am open to suggestions on how best to procede but for the most part my general attitude is going to be. "look lady, you messed up, I think you are hot but I can definitly do better than a person who is planning on not being faithfull. Best of luck in life."

- Open to feedback, thanks for the advice!