Any time I read "love unconditionally," I am suspect as to the other person's concept of HEALTHY unconditional love. Especially as it relates to boundaries.
It would be interesting if you would ask your BIL "I do love her unconditionally, but I also need to do what's healthiest for me. If I'm showing "frustration" and "anger," that's not my intention. I am TRYING to set mutually healthy BOUNDARIES.
Let me ask you, BIL, what boundaries do you think are fair for someone in my situation, while I love unconditionally? Jesus forgave the adulteress, but He also said to "go and sin no more." That was a boundary, expressed even while He was demonstrating His unconditional love for this woman."
