K4D Rising #4

[K4D]

This is an email from my BIL when I asked why should I hold off on filing after he talked to my W.

"The reason I think you should wait beyond the obvious, your priests advice, and my hope for your marriage to be reconciled is simply that W didn't say anything positive about getting back together, but didn't say anything negative. Why would you want to be the person to pull the trigger. There is a reason she has not filed. I also think you have given her reasons to not want to reconcile even after all she's done. I don't think you showing open frustration and anger every few weeks because she hasn't change her mind is going to work. It is going to take a year or two of love and kindness no matter what she does to convince her that you are different. Are you willing to wait that long and are you willing to have the strength and control to do that? Shocking her back to reality will not work. In the mean time, yes, who knows what things she might do. Have you ever read the book of Hosea? Think about how God felt when his chosen people time and time again turned away from him and basically broke the covenant that God made with them. You're in the same situation. Also, try finding a biography of St. Rita. Probably some pretty interesting similarities between her and her husband except in her case she was a saint and her husband was a great sinner.

The ball is in your court and I think if you could love her unconditionally, she would come back."

Kevin