can pursuing a WAS be a 180?

[avermont]

Yes, it would be perfect if one of the male friends said exactly that.

But he is such a reserved, no talk about emotions guy--wow, hard to imagine one of the friends saying that.

I do think he is out of contact with the friends--much of our activity was sport-related, and as it isn't biking season or ski season yet, I "imagine" that he isn't seeing much of the gang. Most of the "hey,let's call so-and-so for a movie and dinner" was inititated by me (not unusual, I think). So I am not sure where/when he will get chatted to about me.

There are some male friends I could picture sending round to rough him up a bit, though...but talk about R and feelings??!

Puppy, I will trust your experience and wisdom that especially in a small town word gets around--I am trying to get out and about--will work on visualizing being strong if I see them together so I can handle that blow when it comes.

Otherwise I am hiding out too much. Have moved my post-office, bank, drug-store, food shopping errands to the town where I work. I am out with friends ALOT but it is in other towns.

Well, as I posted, I did go to "our" bar on Saturday and Sunday, so there's a couple of steps.