You need to reinforce your boundary and ask for complete transparency. Don't let him put it back on you. His choices have consequences. "if you do __________, then this is the consequence_________." All up to him, don't own his problems.
I wish I had understood this earlier. It is VERY IMPORTANT.
NOW is the time to learn how to set HEALTHY boundaries.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
