Leaving judgements aside, do you believe down deep, that that the only realistic way for you to detach from your w and begin moving on, is to have some other woman in your life?
It feels that way sometimes. But then when I truly think about it, I am not sure there is another woman out there that can really bring me happiness. I think the only woman that can really make me happy is the one that I married.
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When you have an honest answer to this question, ask yourself one other question--are you willing to do what is needed to be a happy man?
Willing to? I am trying to accomplish this. But yes, you are right, quite often I live in a state of confusion. I question my own decisions to often. At times it prevents me from making the best and right decisions. At other times it is hard to follow through when I make up my mind and move forward. Questions pop up down the process that make me re-evaluate a decision that was made.
Kevin
the inability to be happy on your own, or to think you must have a woman (let alone a particular one) in your life to "Make" you "happy" is THE fundamental problem you have. That is, again, why we've all so urged you to get c for yourself. You don't see it as a problem emotionally or psychologically speaking, but it is a huge one. And it probably has cost you the marriage you had. When you "need" someone else to "make you happy" it means you are a needer, not a giver and you bring only needs/deficits within, to the table...that's a problem. I wish you saw this. AND did something about it Until you do, I see no hope for your situation to improve. Why would it? j-
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