WAW on suicide watch, what now???

[MHL]

Sandi2,
Sorry about the multiple threads, I am new to online forums and thought that I need to put my sitch there first. Also I have read your responses to other members concerning WAW and what it takes for LBH to be attractive again to WAW, the posts were invaluable, thanks.

I actually agree with you on her wanting attention from someone, OM,me, family, friends, etc. I am okay with not contacting her or trying to read anything into her actions, and I won't be sending any notes, flowers, etc. I still love and care about her but am committed to sticking with the LRT. The feeling of missing her has diminished significantly for me, I would say that I am missing my partner in life. I have the kids and all the responsibilities all on me which IMO i am not doing a bad job, it is my driving force and I have the mindset that I can accomplish more w/o her.

After I kicked her out she/we started seeing Christian C, paid for by our church. We only did IC no JC which I still think was a mistake. Her C only got 1 side of the story and I could tell that when we did have a JC session, her C had a very poor view of me, and was very condiscending when she spoke to me. Her C diagnosed my W as codependent on relationships, ie she needs others to fill her love tank and when i stopped filling her tank she sought that attention elsewhere. I think her C really incouraged her to remain as independent as possible and detach from me further. I think my W took that opportunity to go on the hunt to fill that need again. And yes I think she is in a serious MLC. She started losing weight about 18 months ago and at the point of the first A, she actually looked better than when were originally married. I think she was tired of the responsibilities of raising a family, money , soccer, cooking etc. and the M was on the back burner for sure.

MIL has been very supportive of me, infact over the last 5 weeks my W did not call her b/c MIL was telling her how bad she was messing up her life, family, etc. Anyone that told my W that she was making mistakes, she just cut off all contact. I will not contact MIL too much and will keep it to a minimum and let her know that I don't want a D and want to still work on the M.

My hope is that this is the first stage of remorse for my W, but I will proceed with caution. On a final note I did give my C the boot today. Since starting with them the M has gotten worse not better.