That's great Lola! I like your thoughts on control. Great stuff.
It does seem like turnarounds happen when the WAS doesn't feel pressured any more.
Maybe leave a door open for him, if just a friendship? His life events seem to have changed his perspective quite a bit. It doesn't seem to be affecting your PMA, which is good.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK