She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

Karen,
thank you so much for another detailed reply;

I'll get the book on tough love. I am religious, but W has become very anti-religion over the past 6 years. I've been thinking about returning to church as part of GAL, and fearful it would quicken D. I now see that's the wrong way to think of it. I'll look up the book. When this all started, D13 started going to school early to participate in a christian athletes group, and has expressed some interest so I can take him with me.

I've been to three alanon meetings so far. two were good, one was me and four women! The men's group on sat was overwhelming with 50+ men, but it's the best schedule for me. All I've done is listen so far. I need to connect with a sponsor. My MC is serving as IC, and I like her.

What kind of GALing are you doing?

I think I've been spending too much time on the "problems" on not on GAL. Still here's what I've done so far. I'm thinking this is more self-work than GAL.
1) I started putting all kids stuff before work. I had been working all the time, in my mind to meet W's needs. Now I don't see the point and I want to be at more of kids events. Costs us money, but doesn't matter to me now.
2) Changed diet: no more eating out; make my own breakfast and lunch.
3) Stopped drinking Coke (been wanting to do this for a while), drinking one glass of coke zero in the morning to help with the caffeine withdrawal.
4) started walking everyday. I've lost 20 pounds.
5) stared reading again instead of watching tv. used to read eveynight.
6) I've been disconnected with my own family. I reconnected with my closest sister. It's a shame it's over this crisis, but she is a rock. I'm having the entire family over for thanksgiving.
7) I've been trying to go out on weekends with friends, but this one is hard. I end up going out by myself, as all of my friends are working on weekend nights.

I'm a musician, all of my friends are musicians. I think I need to find some non-musician friends! Usually I would gig on weekends. The irony is a couple of years ago, I stopped doing most weekend gigs so that I could spend even more time with family, and that's when W started distancing more.