And again--if NC--and I do all these great 180's which I understand intellectually, ast least, to be about ME and not about him--how do I ever show him that the reserved, holding back, not expressing feelings AV has changed? Without seeing how wonderful I am becoming, why would he ever think about leaving OW and re-trying with me?
Why does everyone in these situations always discount the presence of third parties in your lives?
People hear stuff, AV -- especially when they have a vested interest in you. Put more simply? HE'LL KNOW. It will get back to him.
