So this is not a case of being hoist by my own Friendiness petard; it's a case of drawing a boundary -- I won't be friends with a woman who by her own admission cannot live her life if it doesn't include the man she betrayed me with and whose sense of a fair outcome is that she gets what she wants, and I voluntarily give up what little the law entitles me to.
So you can't be friends with a woman who does this, even after you are separated, moving toward divorce. But you COULD be friends with her while she was doing this, while she was still living with you in the marriage?
This is what I don't understand, SP (and granted, it's not our job to understand you), but I never could understand the total "friendiness" when you were going thru this with her . . . which I challenged you on, and you defended, very strongly, countering with, basically, "Why wouldn't I want the mother of my children to be emotionally healthy and happy?" which I could accept.
But now you seem to be TOTALLY batchit livid with her, when the marriage is basically no more, and she pulls the same crap behavior with you.
I just don't get it. And again, it's not my JOB to "get" you, but as someone else said above, I do kinda worry that you're "going to blow" or something.
