So, if she came and told you she couldn't live with another OM -not the one she betrayed you with, things would be different?
Sorry, I am holding my breath here (dont make me suffocate) till you figure out you wouldn't want to be friends with her either way right now. I've said before in my sitch, I wouldn't want my H to be with the original OW in the future if we do divorce, but being almost 3 years in this mess, I know deep inside, it' only the hurt and the bruised pride speaking. My right and my choice, but still loosing to the specific someone is a matter of semantics (correct word?), it matters, it hurts, it is understandable to cause anger but the fact is, this OM or another OM = no difference, she is gone (doubting that too).
Gypsy sees something I sense as well. All this wonderful typing and expression of funny-sarcastic posts, makes me worry about you. IMO, you are rationalizing everything you feel and since you need to rationalise your anger you are justifying it on this Friendliness etc etc. SP, guess what? You dont need 'excuses' or "reasons" to be angry and hate her guts at the moment. Feel it and deal with it. She is been acting poorly. You know that, we know that. What now?
IMO, keep the business matters, business matters. Dont mix feelings,money, kids... It may get ugly.
