Early on in this I mentioned we should see Michele to help sort this out once and for all.
Sunday she starts to ask about it. Who is this person how much etc etc.
I tell her about DB and that I have read the book. She really didn't like that or the talk about counselling.
WHY did you tell her about MWD or DB? Why did you bring up counseling at all?
The DB and DR books are meant for you. You've pretty much ensured that any work that you do to try to patch things up will now be viewed with suspicion because you're not being "genuine", you're working a "program" or a "scheme" to win her back.
Originally Posted By: gettinsomenads
She had this huge diagnosis of our marriage and crap. Was totally sarcastic about the fact I had read a book about relationships.
...such as this.
You can't make her want to work on the R. She is obviously not in a place where she wants to talk to you about this stuff yet. So stop trying to do it.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
