sounds like you're doing ok but one thing I wanted to ask is getting back into the pace of normal everyday life is a good routine but part of what lured her away was something really exciting & unknown - when is the last time you did something really exciting & unknown with her.
Something totally not you, a total 180 for you.
What would that be? Spitball it here if you have to, make this marriage something new by re-inventing something.
- maybe a his & hers day at the spa, you know massages and all those special treatments - maybe signing up for some ballroom or salsa dancing, something you both haven't done before - have the grandparents take the kids for the weekend and tell your wife to pack a bag for the weekend: go to a hotel, include taking her shopping for a new outfit and some shoes, include a makeover, reservations at a nice restaurant, pack some candles & some massage oil, make the night something special & hot
Plan the whole thing, make it something you want to do, not just something you're doing for her, something you think would be hot & spicy
Something that is a diversion from the everyday doldrums, something that associates you and her memory of you with something exciting & new
