Hi Jstar,sounds like your having a pretty rough time!
My advice is to let him work like a crackhead, collecting scrap metal, is he stealing copper from unfinished houses yet? Really? And you focus on you and those babies.
This is an incredibly stressful time for anyone, let alone someone who is already dealing with a difficult circumstance like you are. You need to detach from this situation and start focusing on your health and wellbeing.
Hes not going to do anything with the advice from the counselor until he is ready to, and that obviously hasnt happened yet. I wouldnt let him keep his tools there, if he wants out, then he wants out. Saying "I would like to work on us" doesnt buy you free storage.
Set some hard and fast boundaries for your sake, and the sake of that baby. Keep coming on here, journaling will help you to releive some tension and you will always receive feedback. Visit and post to some other threads and you will get more responses.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...