can pursuing a WAS be a 180?

[avermont]

I try to remember I'm not the only one who has to deal with seeing X and OW . It is all the fear in my mind. I don't imagine them embarrassed--I imagine them holding hands, happy as can be--and she sneers at me. They are happy, not ashamed at all.

So, since this is all in my head, I need to work on detaching, right? Right.

To get to the point of seeing them and being OK would be heaven.

Detach. Detach. Detach