New here, this is my story...

[TrentC]

She told me I needed to move out of the house (we have two houses, but the parents rotate, the kids stay at the primary house), so this is my last week in our new home. I will be moving into our old house after thanksgiving.

So why exactly are you moving out? You haven't done anything wrong from what I can tell. She's the one who wants to leave you, so she can pack her things and go.

I am giving up. I worry that as soon as I do this though, she will change her mind; and then I will be moving forward, and have to decide if I want to return.

This is actually a good thing. When you are no longer making decisions based on holding on to a crumbling M, but what is best for you, is when change can actually happen.

And what is wrong with deciding to return? She's the one who chose to leave you. That is something that you have to decide to forgive.

She told me that then she would get an attorney, have the hearing moved up and get this resolved quicker...so I relented. We discuss the logistics of this on Wednesday night.

A better answer would have been, "That is a very good idea. I will contact my attorney (or consult with one if I have not done so yet) and we can continue this discussion through them."

I think I need to come to grips with the fact that my marriage is over. That I am essentially a single person now and focus on making a good second home for my kids and start rebuilding my life and moving forward.

Not a bad plan at all.

My wife is right, I should have done counseling years ago. It is unfortunate that she is making a good man for some other woman who is going to benefit from her pain. However, at this point, that is what it is.

And there is nothing that says that your wife cannot be that "some other woman", at some point. But the future is the future; focus on today, and yourself, and your kids.