Sure Rob - you finally give me a postive comment......and then hit me with the last line. It's well deserved though....
This morning as we were getting ready for work, WAW seemed to purposely remain naked more than required. I purposely looked the other way.
Years ago my WAW got me a cell phone and the billing is in her name. This morning I suggested we have it switched into my name, and that I would start paying it. Paying all the cell phone bills was always her duty. I also said that I no longer wanted her to get my cell phone bill, since her knowing who I would be calling makes me feel controlled. The truth is, I really don't care now, but I might some day. And..nothing like creating a little mystery. She of course responded with "you must be calling someone you don't want me to know about". I said "no if it was someone I was already calling, you would have already seen the bill".
That started a brief conversation in which WAW again mentioned being mad and I stayed very calm and said "I can't control how you feel". Just before leaving for work she brought up how she thought we were going to show the kids we can still get along. By that she means my new boundaries of her only being in the house when I am not there, etc. She's sticking with the "best for the kids" thing.
I felt it was important to clarify things, so I called her at work and made sure I kept it very brief. I said "I agree that the kids should see us getting along, but to me getting along means respecting each others needs. While I don't think you leaving is right or good for the kids I am respecting it. Seeing us playing house or you cleaning the house, isn't going to make a difference. In fact, it may be bad for them to not see reality".
Now...RobX....really think before you trash me on the following: I did say that maybe we could have Sunday dinner together as a family, because that really would be good for the kids. Just actual eating of dinner, nothing more. I think that shows I am a little flexible and still care about the kids. And...once a week (and likely not every week) it will give WAW the opportunity to see that I am not dying without her and can see her without going back into puppy dog mode.
And...since S16 and I are still working out together my body is starting to look great. I am dressing better, wearing new cologne, etc. WAW seeing that once a week - and more importantly seeing that with my new positive attitute won't hurt either.
