I don't like the "are you sure you want to be married to someone who ____" comments made on this board.
I'm sorry you disapprove, Jon. I think the idea is to get people like GF to explore their motivations, and to establish healthy boundaries. When one's devotion for a spouse (or to ANYTHING, for that matter) crosses over into "I will hold on to this at all costs," then it becomes an unhealthy co-dependency, rather than devoted fidelity.
That's all I was trying to communicate. I am pro-marriage, and am here to try to save them, but it must be done in a healthy way that's not emasculating nor overly enmeshed.
