Thank you all for your excellent input, I see that patience and love are the keys here, this is really hard. How to be close and mysterious at the same time, I guess well see. I know I can do this. When I started to detach and set some boundrys is when he started to come around, it was also when the affair was revealed, silly me believed him when he said there was no OW, he even had our children covering up for him. Funny thing about all this right now though, when we are on the phone we are as connected as ever, but in person it feels kind of akward, wierd. I am going to put these things into practice and will keep you posted. As far as reconnecting with his family and friends, yes, very much so, and he always makes it a point to tell me about it. Funny, like he's reporting mile stones to me without even realizing it LOL. Thanks agian, lt
