Divorced and want to reconcile...

[dday101798]

I understand where you're coming
from as the hurt party, but testing your ex, as mine, I think
was testing me, has only made me feel as if I was losing my dignity.

Yeah, and as I've admitted and attempted to enlighten you on the vast of the male ego, his restoring dignity is telling him to watch his backside.

Also, and to answer your question as to why I'd personally be testing my XW: she has always thru out the whole A, S, D and now seems to think I will always be there to be her 'plan B' of sorts. I have told her numerous times I am not and will not, you made your bed, sleep in it. But, again, that is for my own personal situation which was definatley far more brutal than your XH's.

Hang in there, and keep strong. I have a good feeling for your situation so long asyou don't get needy, don't set expectations and let him do his thing when he wants and make yourself the kind of person he fell for once already.