Today was our W anniversary. H and I had a convo about business and H said, "Next step is financial settlement" and I added, "and the divorce". He said, "Yes, that too." H started to say I'd stalled finances in the past. I said that was starting a convo about the past and that I would have no convo about the past unless it would help improve the future. He said, "Ok."
Originally Posted By: bonnyh
Certainly seems that he's trying to reconnect with the kids at least. Which is good for all.
Don't think I'd look into it anymore closely than that. if he does at some point want more than that how would you feel?
Bonny, Yes, definitely reconnecting with the kids. This makes me wonder about his thoughts of moving elsewhere or travelling around the country. Not sure he could go now having spent so much time reconnecting.
Probably invalid question Bonny because he won't want more. He's too proud and he won't go there. It's finished and once the divorce is done, it'll be set in stone for him. Not sure I will ever move on completely but then again didn't think I'd suggest a divorce either. Tired, tired, tired of the limbo.
Inlaw Dilemma FIL rings tonight to ask me to go to MIL's 70th birthday. It's a family only thing and he says as far as they're concerned I will always be family. I love my in-laws but I don't want to make people uncomfortable. I told FIL that and he understood. My kids want me to go. I think I know the answer but just want other people's thoughts. Do I speak to H about it or just ignore the kid's pleas and stay away. In laws live interstate. H asked me this morning if he could take the kids so obviously FIL hadn't told H he would invite me.
