#67 Cant find my "pieces"

[AliSuddenly]

Hey K.. I'm sorry I missed your nameday !! I'm so glad yuor H was sweet and made a BIG effort (for him hey) to go get you something beautiful and had the foresight and planning to take a gf to help get exactly the right thing. Wow hey? I'm sorry I missed it anyway..

As for this.. "I should have acted differently and maybe gotten some insight from him. Instead I was upset and defensive and ruined the convo I started."

I know exactly what you mean. Me and bf dont really talk so much now but back when we did, I had to try very hard to just take the answers as they were revealed and remain "poker faced" whilst he answered instead of reacting at the time. I would pinch my own hand whilst he talked sometimes, to just stop me crying or reacting. I also left LOTS of space.. just waited, paused, did "hmm huh..?" noises, or nodded, or asked very open questions. Its not the end of the world, why not try again? It sounds like he was hitting a nerve a little, for you to get defensive. Imagine how he feels when you bring up akward things about him and her! Its easy to see how they can do all they can to avoid talking about the past.

Also, how interesting, he was assuming that YOU didnt want him to go near you yet, after what he had done, so was surprised to hear you were ready. Not that he doesnt fancy you?

Makes me think K that whenever you make assumptions about your H, its often not as bad as you fear?

Also, seeing as he affects you so much and you did get so upset, you must still have strong feelings for him, so dating others doesnt seem a good idea right now??

xxx