Forward I hear you my friend, I do try keeping contact with ex minimal, but I have noticed that when he drops son off he asks son to send me out to talk with him, maybe this is because he is limited to speaking to me when wifey is around so sneaks in a chat whilst she is not there. Also I do encourage son to have a relationship with his dad and have never done otherwise, what I was saying was I dont want ex back in our lives if he is just going to cause trouble between son and myself