Well I did the Salsa lesson and the "dance" that followed was fun for the most part. I think I did ok... people bring their on shoes to change into. So I wasn't as serious as some but I laughed a lot. I have never done anything more than club dancing so it was different.

I met with H tonight to discuss financials... it was difficult. I noticed H is not wearing his ring ( don't know why I noticed)

He is willing to just have gave me a number that I need..."He's not going to fight me over money or the kids" UUmmm I said.. "we haven't fought in over a two years... why would I start now".

So, he's ok with me moving back to FL. He will give me all the money I need or want. (Boy, if that don't make you feel like sh*t that someone will pay for you to go away, I don't know what will). I guess I will have full custody.

I told him I wouldn't be able to buy a house in FL due to the tiny details that morgt. companies don't really want to loan money to fulll time student with no job.. "No, problem ... I'll buy you a house and sell it to you for a dollar".

I had noticed more gambling behavior... so at the end of the talk when all papers where put away I said:

S: I have a concern about gambling
H: Ok
S: A long time ago in marriage you told me not to ever let you gamble because you had done it before and you knew you would have a big problem. Now, you have every right to recreate in whatever manner that you want, and you should. But, I have noticed beyond recreational spending coming out of our account. You asked me to not let you do that and I am not asking you to not do that. I am asking you to not let it be a problem. I will never speak of this again because your able to make a smart decision regarding this isssue and I trust you will
H: Okay


Then we said ... goodnight

Then I cried in the car!

Now, I am better... it's just hard now tomorrow we meet with my lawyer.

Last edited by sandycay; 11/23/09 05:14 AM.

M:47
M:18
D16, S19
1st S 1/08-5/08
Reconciled/May 7, 2008
Left again Nov 9, 2009
I Filed: Nov 17, 2009
Final: April 14, 2010
EX walked away from kids too