Not sure what to do

[TrentC]

I need some advice.
She said she wanted to keeps lawyers and the family court out of it. I said as long as things are fair.

BZZZT! Wrong answer, the way you ensure things are fair is to involve lawyers. She is not your friend in this.

The whole "let's make this as amicable as possible" and "we can still be friends" is pure 100% WAS script. They want to make it as easy as possible on themselves.

She then said that I can't take our son away from her. I told her I didn't want to take him away from her, but I want to be a part of this life as much as possible.

Again, wrong answer. You tell her that your attorneys will help you work out a good custody schedule.

She also said "you wouldn't give me the house" to which I replied "do you think I would give you the house?". She didn't answer. Then she asked me if I was planning on buying her out, and I said I wasn't sure. She said her father built that house and then she started crying and said she has to go.

No, no, NO! Do not discuss this at all with her! Your answers should be "I'll have to think about it and get back to you."

I'm starting to wonder if she is now realising that this is not going to be easy as she first thought.

Which is why you don't lift a finger to help her in this.

I feel like calling her and saying that this is going to be a difficult process, and wouldn't it be worth trying again.

Should I ?

NO!

She isn't going to listen to you right now. She's concerned about her well-being only.

The only way to get it through to a WAS to make them figure it out for themselves. When they're looking at retaining a lawyer, and arguing about custody, and deciding what to do about selling the house -- THEN they might come to YOU.