WAS seeing reality?

[Gnosis]

And yes, she has written about finding someone else to help her get over the EA married friend who did not leave his wife for her.

As hard as it is to believe... and difficult to achieve... try make that someone else you.

Forget about the 100K... its a red herring. It could have been a hobo she fell for. As for motorcycle, home projects... nope not the reasons.

She has emotional needs: comforting to talk to, talks about her, mind reading... "I can SO relate to you...." THESE ARE THE KEYS. She thinks its the money. Career driven... yeah... goes to "ambition".

Now here are a few more keys for you... and I'm assuming here that:
1) you are always wearing overalls or "blue collar" clothing
2) you aren't dressed smoothly often
3) your appearance has lagged
4) you haven't got a decent hairstyle

Tell me if I'm wrong there. So... all this counts against you. If you want her back you're going to need to do those changes. There is a reason she fell in love with you. I bet you used to listen to her and make time for her before... then life and the kids got in the way.

Honestly, I can't remember your entire story and will need to go back through your thread and re-read it. You need to make yourself attractive in her eyes again. You're going to laugh at me, but go hire the movie "The Breakup Artist." Watch it until about the 1 hour mark. Its a romantic comedy. Basically the girl is hired by the dumped guy to conquer her materialistic sister. She runs him through a complete makeover. Pay attentions to the tips she's giving him and ignore the story.

I'll try re-read your thread tomorrow and see what else I can glean from it.