There are few things that seem to have near unanimous agreement here, and not moving out is one of them. DO NOT move out, unless you have had enough and are truly ready to D him. You should not move out as a ploy to try to get him back.
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it just feels like its sooo much tension and pressure in the house that maybe the whole situation and relaationship could use a break. in short, what if i became the WAS?
Tension and pressure on....YOU, not him. He seems to be doing well. And who controls how you think and feel?
As far as becoming the WAS, I don't think you can flip a switch and become that. Now, if you have really thought it through (and in all honety, it doesn't sound like you have) and you are operating on logic as opposed to feelings/emotion, and you are truly done, then I doubt anyone here would have any problem supporting your decision. But, just like with the moving out, if you are thinking of becoming the WAS to try to get H back, you are playing with fire. You should not make a threat (I'm done) unless you are absolutely committed to following through. And I don't think you can be committed to following through if you are doing it to try to get H back.
