i just posted a new thread with this question based on something that puppy mentioned in this thread:
Why is a mistake to leave the marital home? i am thinking of doing this because of all the tension and pressure at the house and thinking that time apart will help me and hubby be able to think clearly. It seems as though most of the people that have DB successfully did after the spouse decided to leave and had some time to think...piGA is another example that is starting to have good results after a seperation.
I'm not saying that being apart might not be helpful. I'm saying that the LBS/BS should never be the one to leave. Unless there is physical or emotional abuse going on, or a marital environment that is SO toxic that it's causing undue trauma on the children, it is the PERSON WHO WANTS TO LEAVE THE MARRIAGE THAT SHOULD LEAVE THE MARITAL HOME.
Of all the controversial topics around here (exposure, "snooping," etc.), this is just about the ONE topic that gets near-100% consensus from everyone.
Being separated also gives you far less opportunities to live out your positive changes that you'd like the wayward/walkaway spouse to see.
