WAW on suicide watch, what now???

[MHL]

I have been reading threads here now for a couple of weeks trying to see if my sitch fits any others. Mine has taken an unusual turn and need guidance as to what to do next.

You can read my thread below, which I just posted in the newcomers section but have been hanging here b/c the posts are more relevant. In short I discovered my WAW second ongoing affair about 2 weeks ago, we are separated and I was trying the LR technique but let her have it when I found out. She promised on Oct 15 that we would not date during separation. I was mad for 2 days then went back to LR and was nice when we would see each other at kid exchange and nice via text, email. I contacted OM’s W (they are separated also, 4 months) OM dropped the bomb on her, EA only, on their 21 anniversary. I met OM’s W 4 days later and told her that my W and her H were definitely having a PA, she was devastated, but not very motivated to work on or save her M. I bought OM’s W a copy of DR and told her she could save her M. On Nov 19 she caught them in the act, walked into the house and confronted them in the bed and even got pics. Said my W never showed her face and let them have it for 10 – 15 minutes. OM’s W called me next morning, Nov 20 to let me know what happened. My W supposedly cut it off with OM that morning and sent me a text, “you win”, we have not spoken in a 8 days prior to that text. In keeping with LR technique, I did not respond even though I knew what was going on, my W did not know that I knew what happened the night before. Later that day my MIL called me saying that W had left a bunch of suicide notes at work and that a friend from W’s work was taking her to meet my W’s sister to take her to the hospital to have her admitted to psych ward. I am not on good terms with SIL but talk to MIL daily and she is on my side. I do not know the content of the notes and neither does MIL.

There will be a family meeting with the doctor at hospital, I evidently am not part of the family, the meeting will be SIL, MIL and W’s aunt. FIL is deceased. If W is released I am not sure what I should do. Obviously if she contacts me I will proceed with caution. Our IC’s are involved but have not helped the M at all. They believe in “fixing the individual” first then the M. Meanwhile our family and M have disintegrated. D13 is fully aware of everything unfortunately but she is very mature for her age, but hates her mother ( I am trying to deal with it separately ) , S9 is obviously affected, I am trying to shield him as much as possible.

Should I reach out if and when she gets out or keep up the no contact, or limited contact and only keep it to the kids, money etc. I truly don’t know how I should handle this, I still love her and I would work on the M if she was willing.