Detachment

[antlers]

Does anybody have any advice on detaching when W and I still live in the same house and sleep in the same bed.

Up until a week ago she still said "I love you" and would kiss me before bed.

Now she is really detaching from me, says very little, does not kiss me good night etc.

I have still been kissing her goodbye and saying I love you, but I feel she is reluctant to kiss me and does not respond anymore when I say I love you.

I was scared dot stop because I wanted her to know that I still am trying, but I think she knows how I feel.

I am going to continue to be positive, show compassion, but not be over loving or affectionate to her.

Is it best to stop the kissing and say I love and wait for her to make those moves? detachment is probably the hardest concept for me to apply.

She's been able to detatch from you while living in the same house and sleeping in the same bed, as mine did from me. It can be done, obviously. It's a decision that you have to make and stick to it...easier said than done, I know...but it can be done.

My advice is to stop kissing her goodbye and stop telling her that you love her...she knows how you feel. Whenever you kiss her goodbye and tell her that you love her, you remind her that she doesn't feel the same right now! You're scared to stop doing this, and I understand that. But do you understand what I'm saying? She can't be reciprocal right now, and every time you do it, you remind her that she can't be reciprocal right now. Give it a rest, and stop being scared...it'll get you nowhere.