She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

So, you told her it wasn't acceptable to put your daughter in the middle, by telling her that your daughter told you that it wasn't cool? (thereby putting her in the middle) ????

wow; thanks for this 2x4. I really needed it. I made a big mistake, and it's why I need to stop really get a grip and limit all conversation with my W.

Other than pointing that out, Awoken, I'm in complete agreement with what Karen posted. Your wife seems to be calling all the shots here, which is NEVER a healthy balance of power in a relationship, but considering all of her serious issues right now, is triply troubling to me. When my wife threatened me with divorce for the one-too-many'th time, I went ahead and filed myself, first, which dramatically changed the dynamic.
Puppy

I do feel powerless. Although she is ticked off that I moved back into the master bedroom, that I separated our finances, that I've been making changes (too late she says). Most of these were at your urging, so thanks yet again. I read every word you type me; many times over.