I see your point. Maybe I have Stockholm Syndrome.

But what is the difference between my situation and one where the spouse moves down the hall into the spare bedroom? I mean the question sincerely. Is it because my husband is telling me what he wants, rather than just moving down the hall and not saying anything?

Me: 37 H: 43 S: 5
Married: '02
1st MC: 11/07
Bomb: 12/07
Reconciled: 04/08
04/09 "More space"
08/09 2nd Bomb
11/09 Wants sep. lives, same home
11/20/09 In MC to "negotiate co-parenting,co-living"