Just picked up s7 from wife's apartment. When I got there, he was laying on the porch outside of the front door. S7 said he was waiting for me there. I asked if he was packed up and ready to go, and he said yes. He opened the door, as I stood outside of it and grabbed his packed bags next to the door. I asked where W was and he said he didn't know. I told him not to forget his hat, which he went into the living room to grab. I expected my voice to at least stir someone in the apartment, but no one appeared.
Assuming (yeah, I know about that word) that W was still mad about last night's late transfer and didn't want to see me, we took his stuff and left. We only live a mile down the street, and as soon as we got home, I received a very angry call from W telling me how wrong it was to take him without letting her know. I explained that I was following our agreement exactly, and that I was there to pick him up at exactly 3pm. Reminded her that I had offered to pick him up at 4pm, but that she had insisted on 3. W got mad and hung up. I called back and explained that it was my mistake to assume that she just didn't want any contact with me, but that I was going to follow our agreements to the T. She claimed that she would never just have him sitting out waiting for me without seeing him off and that I really don't know her.
W said that she came out to find him to make him lunch, and that he was gone and again told me how WRONG that was. I explained that I was exactly on time, and had she been paying attention to the time, she would have known that it was time for me to be there. W said that I was just trying to make a point, and using our s7 to do that. She asked how I would feel if she had done that to me. I got her point. She said goodbye and hung up.
I texted her back a few minutes later apologizing for the misunderstanding, and that in the future I would make absolutely sure that she knows when I come pick him up. I realize that I should have made sure that she knew that I was there to pick him up and allowed her to tell him goodbye. I'm totally new to this whole visitation thing, and I made a mistake. I probably was trying to make a point about promptness (and her lack thereof). I also made the wrong assumption in thinking that she had him ready and waiting for me outside the apartment door.
Asked s7 if he enjoyed spending some time with W. He said all he did was play with W's roommate's d6 while W was in another room. s7 said that W only spent about 20 minutes with him earlier this afternoon making him a necklace. I know that it's none of my business how W spends her time with s7, but I just wish she'd give a little bit more of herself and her time to him during these visits. I know though, that all I can do is give him my time, attention and love.
Me 45 WAW 36 S8 T 15 M 12 Multiple PA's since 6/07 W moved out 10/25/09 I filed D 12/29/09 Sitch
