I also realised something yesterday. My W and I have always wanted to "get ahead in life". We both worked hard to set ourselves up for the future and to enjoy some of the nicer things in life now. What we failed to do though was to enjoy ourselves at the same time. We got so caught up with work and every day activities, that we failed to take time out and spend it as a family just having fun.
Yesterday was bitter sweet for me. It was something I had always wanted to do, and I did it, but what I really wanted was to do it with my son and my w. We had such a fun time, we laughed, we relaxed, we made fun of each other etc, but at the same time, it was stuff that I wished my W could of been part of. I know she would of loved it as well. My son wants to go again, and I will take him, but I'll also ask my w to join us. My son and I would really enjoy it. I don't plan on asking any time soon though as she'll just see it as me trying to win her back.
If she does change her mind in the future, I won't be making the same mistakes we have made in the past. I'll be making sure we have fun as a family and enjoying "right now". I always thought I knew what my W wanted, but I was wrong and I see that now. I should of asked her rather than assuming I knew.
I guess it comes from my upbringing. My parents always worked hard, but we didn't really have quality time together. We didn't go for drives, our out to the beach etc, where her family did alot of that. To be completely honest with myself, I would rather the quality time rather than materialistic things. Materialistic things mean nothing unless you have the people you love around you to share them with you. Maybe it's too late now, but if we get another chance, things will be different.
